By: Amia Hines (@Miaashley_)
Love and Hip Hop is my guilty pleasure that I love to watch every Monday at 9. However, whenever I watch it I observe some things that shape out how we are in my generation today. On the show, there are women with fake butts, fake boobs, fake hair and other body parts chasing not only their dreams but also the men in the hip hop industry. Most of those men are distinguishably described as dogs.
They are somehow always stuck in a love triangle, and Instead of fixing things with their significant other, they dig themselves in to deeper situations through lies and sex with other women. Eventually the women in the male’s life finds forgiveness and goes back to the repeating cycle of their broken relationships.
Now you may ask, what this has to do with this generation today? Well our peers in our society are easily influenced by these reality shows. How? It’s because although these shows are (very) entertaining to watch, we sometimes emulate the way people are in reality shows and reflect it on our own lives without even knowing it.
For example, reality television shows would not be entertaining if it wasn’t for the drama. Society sometimes reflects that by us solving our problems with fighting and drama as well. They don’t let an issue go without a fight, especially in public places. We even go to the point of recording others fighting in public areas and find entertainment in people getting beat up. I see my peers make little situations into huge fights for something as simple as “she looked at me the wrong way.” Sometimes we get to the point where people don’t even want to solve things anymore through actually conversing but to “square up” instead.
Example number two: Reality TV shows make INFIDELITY look cool. The majority of the relationships on Love and Hip Hop are ruined because the women and/or man cheated. For women it’s all about being in control. They think stealing somebody’s boyfriend or baby’s father is a sign of “one upping” someone, getting someone back, or being “the baddest b**”. This reflects on society because nowadays I over hear people talking about how they’re texting somebody’s boyfriends or memes on Instagram saying “While he’s mad at you, he’s laid up with me.”
When males cheat on Love and Hip Hop they usually blame their own gender for their actions with the infamous, “boys just being boys” quote. They think it’s okay for men to cheat because if they don’t get enough bedroom action from their significant other it’s only right for a them to get some from somebody else. Their lack of commitment is blamed on issues within the relationship and is solved through having an affair with other women.
The infidelity seen on these shows reflects on our society because we talk to our peers and “pipe” each other up whenever our friends cheat. We even get to the point where we have grown men and women proud to do it. Was this ever okay?
Last example is the image we see of women on reality television shows. We see how women have fake boobs, fake butts, fake hair and clothes that are close to lingerie when going out. In today’s society, people try so hard to get the perfect hour glass body and if they don’t they are unhappy with their selves. We get to the point where if females don’t have boobs, butt or both, they are seen as unattractive. We look up to people who pay for their features, get rich through pop ups at clubs or have a lot of likes on social media. I see people on Instagram trying so hard to look exactly like what we see in the media.
So why is that we are easily influenced by these shows and is this the future for us? Well I believe in order to fix our future we need to start by being more authentic with our actions, image, and character. We need to empower each other and be happy with who we are and what we have. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects, we need to look at positive and not immediately focus on what the next drama is to talk about to our friends. We also need to stop focusing so much on the media and how that can relate to our world and just be our own person instead.